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Ba ba Blue Boy

Boy Blue has stopped nursing after eight and a half months. I made the decision to stop because he is starting to get teeth and eating “real” food has become his main diet. Every mother and baby make the decision to stop when it is right for them. It was the right time for Boy Blue and I.

Part of me is excited because that means anyone can feed him now. My husband and I can leave him with his sisters at the grandparents to spend the day walking alone. To walk without a stroller while keeping a constant eye on one child or another is a freedom that I don’t remember any longer. I don’t have to nurse him in public which I was actually pretty comfortable with these past few months. However, I never see mothers feeding their babies in public in Strasbourg. While living in Dayton, I didn’t see it all the time but more than here. I am not sure but I think French women give a bottle in public and nurse at home. I have nursed Petite Clown and Boy Blue in just about every park or public place in Strasbourg. No one seems to notice or care. Why should they? Nursing your baby is the most natural thing in the world.

Boy Blue doesn’t seem to care too much. He will root around the front of my shirt when he is tired or hungry. He minds not the bottle or pacifier given in the place of nursing. Last night I laid with him in bed beside me like aways. However, instead of him nursing himself to sleep he soothed away the day with his pacifer. He snuggled close to me and sighed.

He loves his bottle. Every time he takes it, he laughs like it is a new game. He knows he is bigger and somehow the bottle is a step for him. He feels the weight of this step grasping onto it with both chubby little rubber band hands. He presses the nipple of the bottle into his wide open mouth which is shaped into huge smile of delight. He is a big Boy Blue. My little babies are all big babies or small girls or a big girl blossoming into pre-teens.

The last time I nursed him I held him close and he snuggled against me like a little baby ball just like when he was a newborn. I watched him fall deep asleep trying to take a picture of this moment for the photobook in my mind. I have so many memories that I leaf through on quiet day or moments. So many precious and beautiful memories of love, laughter, tears and toothless grins. Little moments of love shared between mother and child. Sweet and delicate seconds of sheer happiness.

I think it is harder for the Mama to stop nursing than the growing baby.

I miss the connection and the special moments shared with my Boy Blue. All the months that I nursed away the tears, the fears and the hunger by wrapping him up in the sleepy warm love of his mothers milk.

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I highly reccomend Avent bottles for nursing (or non-nursing mothers). I have tried many a bottle and Avent is the easiest to wean a nursing baby on or for supplemental feedings.

For those American mothers living in France, like me, who don’t know what formula to give your baby, I gave Petite Clown and I am currently giving Boy Blue Enfamil. You must buy it at the pharmacy and it is a bit more expensive. However, the babies doc recommended it highly and I am familiar with Enfamil because that is what my own mother fed me as a baby in America.

As with all things, I would check with your babies Pediatrician as to what formula is best for your baby.

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  • Alison March 19, 2006, 8:18 pm

    Weaning your child is such a bittersweet thing…

  • cj March 19, 2006, 9:20 pm

    I have never breast fed. To be completely honest the idea never appealed to me. However that was not the reason for my choosing not to breastfeed at all. When Thea was born they said that she needed a special kind of formual to start with because she needed to gain weight asap and that breastmilk wouldn’t do it. When Grace arrived she was almost 2 lbs smaller than Thea, so here again I was faced with the “special formula” task. I have medical issues that requrie me to me on medication that makes the whole breast feeding idea a bad one….

    Feeding time is such a nice bonding time with babies. Erick has said the same thing. He is the man who gets up and does 99% of the middle of the night feedings and never once complains. :)

  • M@ March 20, 2006, 3:44 am

    Not to take away from this beautiful moment, but there was an episode of Family Guy on the other night about trying to ween a baby off of breast feeding. I wish I remember more, but I don’t, but it was funny. :)

  • Pam March 20, 2006, 7:52 am

    Thanks for reminding me to leaf through, and savor, those beautiful moments!

  • Pumpkin Pie March 20, 2006, 7:53 am

    M@
    I don’t know Family Guy. See only 2 years in France and I am lost when it comes to American tv. I will check it out on line. I really really really really miss American tv.

    Cj
    I completely agree with you that feeding time no matter how you do it is wonderful and special. I didn’t breastfeed my first baby and she also snuggled in close to me when she ate.
    I told my husband he can help me feed Boy Blue but we’ll see if that happens. He is the typical male at the moment…more upset that my brests will shrink now.

    Allison,
    He was doing ok until yesterday and then he was like ok this was fun but I want to nurse and he screamed and screamed! He was mad but then he finally took the bottle and was ok. So, I spoke to soon yesterday about him not caring. But, he is ok today. It is bitter sweet.

  • pastisjedi March 20, 2006, 9:34 am

    funny and lovely website for a young cybermother! i was interested of what can think an english girl in Strasburg, my nativ town…now i live in corsica.

  • Pumpkin March 20, 2006, 10:58 am

    Pam,
    It is something I must remind myself at times too. They grow so fast and it is hard to keep up!

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