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A blurp that turned into a belch

My recent post people are people stirred up ‘some people’. I really didn’t think it was such a big deal. I was simply posting that people in bloggie world make questionable posts and like with anything else don’t believe everything you hear or read. Some people are not good at adjusting to another country. They are homesick or not happy for whatever reason and should go back home. My husband was one of these people.

A good example of over generalization is something my husband told me and I didn’t believe. He thought American men were dirty (as Thomas pointed out) because while in public restrooms in America he said he rarely saw an American man washing his hands afterwards. I didn’t believe him and chalked it up to more “America is bad” ranting on his part. However, I could generalize and say that it must be true because another person who knew nothing about my husband and my conversation said the exact same thing.

Let me tell you that if I read that on a blog I will be commenting that it is a bunch of hogwash. My Dad and brother and other American men I know and knew wash their hands.

However, a blogger could generalize and say that American men are disgusting and don’t wash their hands after using the restroom. I bet a whole lotta Americans are going to get really pissed off at that blogger. I would expect some emails, commenting and blogging about it! I know Americans….I am American. It would be all hell broke loose on the poor blogger that posted about dirty non-handwashing American men. I know I wouldn’t just walk away from that blog and never go back without saying that was a bunch of shit. Because I love the American men in my life and would never let someone say that without commenting on it.

It is the same for the Frenchman in my life and my little French kids. Fair is fair. If you can’t take it…don’t dish it out! The blogger in question was out of line and went too far. I think she shouldn’t be surprised by the reaction and if she is then she should start a blog that is password protected.

My view on blogging is this. If you have your blog sitting out there on the internet for all to see you are saying it is ok to be questioned and called on the carpet. I don’t have a problem with that. If I did I would start one of those blogs where it is password protected or go out and buy myself a paper diary.

This is my blog and I will put what I want on it and if someone is not happy they have their own blog and are free to use it or make a comment on my blog or email me. That’s life.

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  • Jessica March 25, 2006, 8:26 pm

    I agree with you that the blog is a public space. I recall this being put to the test recently, with a nanny who worked for someone that (I believe) freelanced for the New York Times. The Nanny kept a blog, of which she gave the address to her employer. Well, one day the nanny found that her employer had mentioned some of the imtimate details from her bog in an article in the Times. On of those details was the revelation that she had had an abortion….

    Anyway! After that, the Nanny wanted to sue her employer for writing that article in the Times, but found that she didn’t have a case because she had already effectively “published” the information in her blog.

  • Marcie March 25, 2006, 8:43 pm

    That’s really funny because I’ve heard black women say that white women don’t wash their hands in the restroom. Being a white woman myself I know I do. It almost seems like a nasty rumour groups people like to spread around about other people. Just my thought.

  • Julie March 25, 2006, 9:58 pm

    At work when I go to the restroom a lot of customers leave without washing their hands. And there are others who yell at their little kids, “Get back here and wash you’re hands.” I think every family has its own separate culture to a certain extent. Even down to washing their hands;-) I wash mine!!!

  • buzzgirl March 25, 2006, 10:59 pm

    Woo hoo! I’ve never seen this “take no shit” side of Pumpkin! You go, girl!

    BTW, Marcie, I’ve never said “white women don’t wash their hands.” Although I have said this specifically about a former boss of mine…and only then when concurring with another person about her!

  • kim March 25, 2006, 11:20 pm

    I agree with Julie, that you cannot just generalize, like say that americans are dirty, because when I go to the restroom I see people not washing their hands or that french are dirty because some of them are not taking showers, its a matter of education, and so it depends on the family that you grow up in and how much importance they put on those things.

    If you see some guy driving like crazy on the roads in france, does that mean ALL french are driving like crazy?? I think not, as my frenchman is soooo cautious in his driving !

    Great post pumpkin, you really are such an articulate writer, you can put all the thoughts so clearly, whereas, I am all over the place:)

  • Vilay March 26, 2006, 4:55 am

    Heuuuu… Kim. I am French and we ALL are driving like crazyyyyy because we are crazyyyyy

  • Pumpkin March 26, 2006, 5:14 am

    I have seen people not washing hands in bathrooms (restrooms for all you non-Americans) :) but like Julie said I thought it was an individual thing not a group thing.

    BTW, I have been thinking more about the whole French smelly issue. And, since the “bitchy” side is coming out….people do not have an odor if they shower or bath every other day….my own kids bath every other day unless it is summer or they get dirty before “bath day”. I was the same with my oldest daughter even before I met my husband. My kids don’t “smell” in the least. They are clean.
    It depends on the person and if it is hot or not and if you have air conditioning. I bet Americans smelled more before air conditioners became such a big part of American life. I can remember sitting in the back seat of my parents car dripping with sweat.
    I will say that some people naturally have more BO. However, unless some people actually think that the French are “naturally” more smelly than other nationalities I don’t see this being a reason for them to smell.
    My ex husband and his wife (typical Americans living in America) don’t make my oldest daughter bath every day just every other day.
    So, I think it is not fair to say the French accept being smelly or are smellier because they take a bath every other day. Please, that is ridiculous. Come on. It takes at least three or four days of not bathing for a normal person not doing physical or outdoor work to become smelly! ;)
    It is more than the French are smelly. It is about setting one group away from another. That is wrong.

  • kim March 26, 2006, 5:38 am

    vilay, you have not seen crazzzy drivers, till you have been on the roads in Quebec. They are crazzzy!

    pumpkin, my kids always took baths every other day, (the 12 year old just this past year, started every morning showering) my doctor in fact, told me only to bath them every couple of days, as it was better for their skin, although in the summer, if they are getting dirtier and sweatier. My frenchie was having a difficult time with this concept, as his family was showering every single day without exception. He has adapted to it, but himself would never go a day without showering!
    Oh and when we were camping, he was insisting that after the day of camping, we get in the freezing cold river to wash ourselves..hahaha
    take care, can’t wait to see what you post about tomorrow!

  • L'Amerloque March 26, 2006, 12:49 pm

    Hi Pumpkin !

    Stick to your guns. (smile) An unhappy reader can always change.


  • Pumpkin March 27, 2006, 11:46 am

    Hi, L’Amerloque!
    I hope the person in question learns to see France and French for what is reality and not let their personal unhappiness make them hate a whole country of people. Or I hope that this person can find a way to go back to their “home” country. Either way it is not fair to say things about one group of people that are not true and to generalize in general. And, a blogger’s post are open to opposition. I know I have had my share and I don’t mind one bit. I will stick to my guns on both these issues because it is what is right. *smile*

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