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Getting back into the swing of blogging

I have been searching for a reason to keep blogging since I am no longer an expat.  I have been busy organizing and baby proofing in my mother’s house while at the same time catching up with my family that I haven’t been able to blog much.  I
have decided that blogging is helpful to me because I use it as a way to write out issues that bother me or to record my everyday life so that I can look back on it later.  When you read my blog, please, keep in mind that the issues I write about are based on my feelings at that time as I am searching for understanding of a subject.  My opinion on matters my change over time or not based on what I continue to learn about the subject.

In the case of yesterday’s post, I don’t see my opinion changing.  When something is so clearly wrong I won’t change my mind.  I still think France is a wonderful country to live in but there are things that do need to change if France wants to keep workers from leaving.  I think huge progress needs to be made in work and education.  College is free in France.  However, it is not as flexible or open to older working students as it is in America.  I see that changing over time.  Our children will most likely attend French college due to the high cost of education in America.  I just hope that it is more open before they start college.  If the kids go to college in America it will be through through their performance in sports or education.  We will never have enough money to pay for it.  So, I do see that both countries are not perfect.  I am simply trying to do what is best for myself and my family.

It is true that if my husband’s family were more supportive we most likely would have toughed it out in France.  However, in hindsight I think that it is best that we did not.  I love being able to stay home with the kids.  However, that just doesn’t buy a house or enable me to provide for my kids.  We were just making it in France.  It was hard to pay the bills let alone buy toys for my kids.  They had what they needed but there where so many times I was afraid that we couldn’t feed them due to the issues with my husband’s employers.  It is wrong that the 35 hour work week is not enforced outside of civil servant jobs.
Social aid is great if the people aren’t crippled in other ways.

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  • Wendy August 25, 2006, 5:29 pm


    I have just caught up with your blog. So much has been going on in my life and I have been in and out of blogging for a while…I am shocked and saddened to find you are now in America. But..I DO understand.

    Please do keep blogging..it will be very interesting to follow your progress and what I know will ultimately be your and Vilay’s success.

    My best wishes for you and your family….take care.


  • Maria August 25, 2006, 6:11 pm

    Hi! I’d like to say a lot, but I won’t. I’m a regular reader of this blog, written from France or from USA, I’ll continue on reading it.

    And yes, we only have one mother and they never abandon a child.

    Pumpkin, You are strong, what a good team you make with your husband! I admire you.

  • Pumpkin August 26, 2006, 12:45 am

    Thank you, Wendy. Today I missed France very much. I really do love both countries and see the good and the bad in both. I think that all we can do is find a place that makes us happiest. For me that is here closer to Angel Girl, my parents and my brother.

  • Pumpkin August 26, 2006, 12:54 am

    Thank you, Maria. I have felt more content since arriving in the States due to the fact that I have been able to call my oldest daughter on a regular basis. The time difference made it very diffulcult while I was living in France…it was seven hours. I will get to see her more often than while living in France even if it is not as often as I would like. I feel as if I never left except for the homesickness that is growing for France. I am lucky to know and love two beautiful countries. However, it comes with a price…being homesick for one or the other.

  • Wendy August 27, 2006, 8:54 am

    I am thinking so much of you – and I feel so sad you weren’t able to make it work in France.

    There IS so much here that pushes against us, isn’t there. It’s a daily battle and sometimes I get terribly tired of it all. Even my job – it’s not what I want to do – at all – and yet I am so lucky to HAVE a job.

    I recently chatted to a French-Canadian man, who has 2 degrees..one in psychology and one in politics..a bright, witty, clever person. Do you know what? After searching for work for over a year – and he REALLY did hunt….he has just got a job selling roast chickens in the markets..he has been given a van and drives all over Franche-Comte, from village to village.

    Isn’t that a shameful waste of education and ability…and yet he is so grateful to finally have an income. It makes me very angry.

    Sometimes I long to leave here and go home..but I am tied by my boys. And I DO love France so much too. It’s an internal tug of war.

  • Pumpkin August 30, 2006, 3:24 am

    Wendy, I completely understand. I miss France every single day. Yet, for work America is a better place for us with all the little things against us. I am happy to be back in the States…I just wish I could have both countries. If I were English I would just hop on a plane or in a car to visit France. But, since I live in the States it won’t be as easy to visit France. I really hate that.

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