I have been busy filling out forms and copying documents for Vilay to get the greencard. I will say that while in France it is not always easy to get the 10 year card…it doesn’t require quite so many forms or dollars. It is going to cost us a little under one thousand dollars to get it all done. I am not including the cost of copying documents or the passport type photos of myself or Vilay that are required. I am not looking forward sitting for hours and hours at the Cincinnati immigration building as we have in the past. If you don’t have an appointment you will be there for up to four hours. I know from experience! After Vilay and I married in Kentucky we had to go to Cincinnati to file and wait for his work authorization. As I sat in this small room full of people many of which were children, I saw a side of America that I would never have seen otherwise. It really helped me when I took my turn at dealing with the French side of immigration. I was humbled by the fact that I knew that in America it was not perfect either. I never complained about the French fees because I had already had a taste of the American fees. Now that Vilay and I are at it again I am still not complaining. I wouldn’t say I am happy about it either. I was just prepared for the emptying of pockets that was to come.
Another thing that makes me upset is that my father must sponsor Vilay because I currently do not have a job to support him. Even if I did have a job it wouldn’t matter since I haven’t worked in the past three years I can’t show a history of employment. Therefore, if anything happens to Vilay and we are not able to cover it financially my father will be responsible. I am not really worried about this. But, I think it is a bunch of bull that my father must sign for anything to do with Vilay’s right to live in the States. He and I have been married for over five years and have had three children from this marriage…three American children. I, personally, think he has officially earned the right to live in America no matter what. How else am I going to take care of three children? I am tempted to say that no one will sponsor him but me. I really can’t see them not letting him stay and leaving me with three small children. I would be forced to go on welfare and get all the daycare for free…at least I wouldn’t be paying. Doesn’t it make more sense to just let the poor guy stay and work and support his family without all the bull? My dad is not happy about having to be responsible for my 35 year old husband and I really can’t blame him. However, if my dad doesn’t sponsor him what will happen? Dad can’t let his daughter’s husband and the father of his grandchildren go back to France. If that happened then we would have to go back to France, too. We can’t emotionally, mentally or financially survive without Vilay. It just doesn’t make any sense. After five years of marriage and three Franco-American kids and the fact that Vilay is bilingual…Vilay should have the right to be American. However, he has to renounce his French citizenship to be American. Make any sense? Not to me.
My kids have both citizenships and I can have both without renouncing my American citizenship. However, I read online that Vilay must renounce the citizenship of his home country before he can take the American citizenship. He must, also, live in the States for three years (according to the customer service operator for immigration) or five years (according to what I read online) before he can even ask for the citizenship. If I were fluent in French we could ask for my French citizenship right now. I would get it even if I am not living in France. I have the right as the wife of a French citizen and the only requirement that I do not meet is being fluent in French.
What I have learned is that dealing with immigration in any country is no fun.