Vilay and I will be married for six years this coming May. We have been together for almost nine years. I sometimes wonder why I married him. I was crazy. Crazy in love.
Even today all he has to do is kiss me hard and I forget that I was ever mad at him.
I think American women “talk” more about what is bothering them than French women do. We can be somewhat of a nag. When Vilay and I first got married he would kiss me to make me be quiet and now he has learned to ignore me.
I don’t see myself as a nag. I am not one of those women that go on and on. I was when I was younger. Now, I simply state what is getting under my skin and let it go. Actually, I think I should pout and sulk longer and more often as I have heard French woman do. It might work better. I can’t. It is not in my personality.
Between all the problems we have faced and are still facing, we haven’t lost the chemistry.
I remember the first time I saw him bent over reading a newspaper still in the stand. My heart was pounding and my head was light. The first kiss made me weak in the knees. His kisses still do that when he wants them to.
Our marriage hasn’t been easy. Most are not. Our marriage has been an adventure of love, children, countries, cultures, tears, laughs, sex, tempers, sweet embraces and life.
Our cultural differences lose importance the longer we are together. Vilay is Vilay and I am me.
I don’t hear his accent when he speaks English. That’s not true. I do hear it sometimes. These are the times that I snuggle close to him and remember how lucky we are for having met at all.
I think inter-cultural marriages can be stronger than others. We learn to overcome many obstacles from the beginning. We have made a promise and commitment to each other that is deep and long-lasting.
From the beginning of our marriage, I never felt like I could or would be able to walk away from the investment and the history that we had shared. All the rest is icing on the cake.
My aunt asked me if it were true what they say about French lovers.
Aunt E, it is true. :)