Why are there people in our lives that love to put us down. They dwell on our least flattering features or even make up things. They overlook our strengths and our beauty.
Are they jealous? Are they mean spirited? Or are they insecure? Why is it there are people close to us that enjoy making us feel bad about ourselves?
I have people like this in my life each and every day. It is during these times that I remember part of the reason I left America to move to France. I, at times, wonder how I could have forgotten. Maybe, I wouldn’t have come back.
I read once on another expats blog that they were running away from an unhappy life. That is the reason they became an expat. It was an opportunity to start over with new people in their life.
I can see that this was part of the reason I wanted to move to another country. I wanted a fresh start. I wanted to be far, far away from those belittling voices. I didn’t want to hear one more comment about my weight or my looks.
The funny thing is that I am not an unattractive person. I am an average beauty. Men flirt with me every day at work. I just don’t care about that too much. I only care when my husband is flirting with me.
I am attractive enough. Yet, most of my life I haven’t felt it. Why?
Because most of my life others have attacked my flaws (most of which I don’t consider flaws…I like my sexy J. Lo rear) while my beauty or strengths were never noticed.
What’s up with that?
Love is in seeing the beauty.
My husband tells me all the time that he is lucky to have found a woman as beautiful as me inside and out. He means it. He really thinks I am drop dead gorgeous. It’s easy to see why I love him right back.
He makes me feel like a super model even if I am just little ‘ol me..With him I don’t have to be anyone but me.
All of us are beautiful and all of us deserve to be recognized for our true beauty. No one needs people telling them about their “flaws”. No one is perfect.
As Helen Keller said:
” The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, nor touched … but are felt in the heart.”