My five year old daughter gave me these beautiful flowers for Mother’s Day.
The petals are made of wire and the centers are pompoms.
At school she crafted these flowers all by herself with her own little hands.
I love the springy hearts on the vase.
After she gave me the flowers and a big kiss sh began to recite a Mother’s Day poem that she learned at school.
I had tears in my eyes listening to her say each word with such confidence not to mention the sweetness of the poem.
Si j’étais jardinier(ère),
Je ferais pousser une fleur
En forme de coeur.
Elle serait pour maman
Qui la garderait longtemps,
Car maman saurait que la fleur
C’est tout l’amour de mon coeur.
If I was a gardener,
I would grow a flower
In the shape of a heart.
It would be for Mom
Who would keep it forever,
Because Mom would know that the flower
It is all the love of my heart.
Being a mother is the most important job of my life. Raising my children to be good hearted and intelligent people isn’t easy. It is work. Each day I must teach my children right from wrong and how to make good decisions.
This morning, I was faced with one of those learning moments that are particuarly tough.
My four year old told me that a boy hit her hard on her chest and twisted her arm because she stuck out her tongue at him. She told me only this morning when it had happened yesterday.
I told her it is not nice to stick your tongue out at someone but that is not a good reason to hit someone. I asked her if she told him anything or if she had hit him back. She hadn’t. I, then, asked my five year old if she had taken up for her little sister. The boy in question is six. Sweet Bear told me she didn’t say or do anything.
When I was a kid I didn’t let anyone touch my little brother. So, I was a bit upset about Sweet Bear not at least telling this boy something. After all I got my first black eye because a boy my age was going to hit my brother even after I told him he better not.
So, I explained to Sweet Bear that she is the oldest and she has to take up for her little sister and brother. She can’t let anyone hurt them. I, also, told Petite Clown that she had to do the same for Sweet Bear if Sweet Bear needed her to.
Family protects each other.
I, next, told my four year old that she should have immediately came to get me.
I am going to have a talk with him today. It is inexcusable that hit my daughter.
First of all, boys DO NOT hit girls.
Secondly, my four year old is two years younger than him.
I have seen him hit at least two other girls with his fists and each time I clearly told him that was not ok. I told his mother about it and she told me that he has to hit to protect himself even from girls. I told her that the girls hadn’t hit him first. She ignored me.
I have had nothing but problems with the boys in this building. My girls have been hit, pinched, spit on, pushed and even hit by a BB from a BB gun.
I ended up teaching my two girls how to correctly make a fist just like my older boy cousins had me. I told them not to hit unless they had to. We talked about what circumstances they may have to defend themselves. I taught them how to punch HARD.
I will continue with my fighting lessons because I will not have my girls unable to defend themselves against bullies.
My girls will know how to protect themselves if push comes to shove.
Of course, I will teach them when to use their heads before their fists.
I did teach my twelve year old how to protect herself and that it was only when she had no other option available to her. She was about six years old at the time. As far as I know, she has never had to fight another person. However, she had more confidence knowing that she could hold her own against another kid if she had to.
I have mixed feelings teaching my children how to fight because I do not believe in physically hurting another person. However, I feel that it is important to prepare them if they do need to fight.
I would like to put my children in karate classes which would teach them how to protect themselves while at the same time understanding that it is only as a last resort.
The point of it all is they are able to protect themselves without really fighting.