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We found out today that more information was requested back at the end of October on the I-485 form for Vilay.  We never got the letter.  It was most likely mailed to my mother’s home and I will never know if she didn’t give it to me or if it was lost in the mail.  I really don’t care at this point.

We can’t know what is being requested by calling.  No information can be given over the phone.  But, after talking to a representative I am pretty sure it has to do with the fact that I don’t make enough to cover the 125 percent of poverty guidelines for the U.S.  I need to make at least 30K.  Ha!  Not in Dayton, Ohio.  Most of the banks have a hiring freeze and the only way I could make that kind of money is at a management level.  So, there we are back in the mess but it is getting too DEEP. 

No one wants to be my husband’s sponsor due to the financial responsibily.  What if he had to go into the hospital?  That would mean that whoever was the sponsor would be responsible to pay the hospital bill.  An example would be of the bill I received from Children’s for Sweet Bear when she had to spend three nights in the hospital at two days old.  It was over 7K.  

The person thought that this may be what is causing my husband’s request for employment authorization to be slowed down.  It has been almost three months since we filed.  I don’t know for sure if that is why or not.  We will need to go to the local office to talk with someone to find out.  If it is I don’t know what to do.  Without Vilay earning a salary we just cannot make it.  We are no where near the federal poverty guidelines for a family of five with only my salary.  Plus, we are paying what we can on our student loans.  Honestly, that is half of what I make and it is not the full amount that we are originally required to pay.  I know it will all work out. 

I know it will.  I am just so tired of waiting for it to work out.  I am starting to get angry at the whole system.  I am tired of living with other people and I am tired of always worrying about how we are going to take care of our family.  I am tired of all the obstacles that don’t make sense. 

I told the person that I am American and my children are Ameircan.  I told her that it is a shame that my husband and the father of my American children will have to return back to France because of some stupid rule.  If he can work we are fine.  Why is he not able to work after nearly three months and three kids to feed.  I am pissed to say the least.


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  • Jessica December 31, 2006, 1:12 am

    Vilay’s sponser wouldn’t be responsible for his hospital bills, would they? I thought it was only if he takes welfare, or public funds.

  • Pumpkin December 31, 2006, 2:15 am

    I talked with an immigration officer over the phone and she told me that the sponsor is totally responsible for Vilay financially. If he were hurt and had to go to the hospital with no insurance (which is currently the case) the sponsor would be financially responsible to pay the hospital bill if Vilay were unable to. He is not able to get on the free insurance through Ohio that the kids and I are on unless he had worked in the US for at least five years which he has not. I don’t blame my father for not wanting to do it since he is near retirement. Actually, I think it is wrong to ask such a thing in the first place since Vilay and I have been married almost six years and have three children together. It is obviously a “real” marriage.
    I hope that on Thursday we will be able to work something out with his work authorization and then go from there. Honestly, I cannot see immigration making Vilay leave the country with an American wife of six years and three American children. I don’t think that would fly well in the press.

  • Jessica December 31, 2006, 2:44 am

    I see.

    Cedric got the temporary work authorization, while the file is pending or whatever. Then when it came time to file, we had sufficient income and didn’t need a sponser. When Vilay gets a job, you should be fine. It will work.

    BTW, can’t get a deferment on the loans? Temporarily?

  • Jessica December 31, 2006, 2:51 am

    “Economic Hardship Deferment – If the student borrower is not eligible for one of the above two deferments, he or she may be eligible for this deferment. A borrower can not have earnings beyond the low standard of living as determined by the Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS).”


    (just trying to be helpful)

  • Cathy Y. December 31, 2006, 8:13 am

    Sorry to hear of all the hassles, Pumpkin! Sending P&PT (prayers and positive thoughts) that your situation will get better soon. Did you end up getting the Sam’s Club diapers? Just curious.

  • Pumpkin January 1, 2007, 12:48 am

    Jessica, We could but we had already had one while living in France. I forgot all about them until we had come back. About a month after coming back we got a nasty letter that we had been turned over to collections and once I called them an arrangement was made for payment of up to 9 months and then we can see about a deferment. This is my own fault due to neglect while living in France. We never had the money to pay while living there and when the deferment ran out I just kinda had the attitute that, “Oh, well…we are never going to live there again anyway.” Of course, once we were ok financially I would have repaid the debt even if it took years because that is how I am. Anyways…I regret letting it slide while we were in France. In seven more months we will be able to defer the loans again. We will get through it all no matter what. I know that and that is what keeps me going. Thank you for thinking of us and trying to help. I hope that on Thursday Vilay will get something either in the way of hope or in more helpful…a temporary work authorization in hand. We really need to have him working so that our situation moves forward. Otherwise, we are stuck. I am not one that likes to be stuck and neither is Vilay. So, we will find a way to move again no matter where it takes us we have each other and our children.

  • Pumpkin January 1, 2007, 12:55 am

    Cathy Y, Thank you…it really means alot. We need all the prayers we can get. I don’t have a Sam’s card but I will look into getting one. We bought the diapers at Walmart (I know, I know…but, they are cheap). We got a huge box full which should last until the middle of the month.

    On a happier note, I looked at the month of January and saw that I get paid three times since I get paid every other week. So, there are a few months in the year where it works out that there are three paydays in one month. January is one of them. It is going to help us out in getting ahead of the bills. Then, Vilay and I won’t be so stressed.

  • Cathy Y. January 1, 2007, 7:56 pm

    Hey, nothing wrong with the Wal-Mart ones that I’m aware of! Until I found the Costco and Sam’s ones, I used a lot of different store brands. Well, I hope your third paycheck helps you out this month. Yes, if you get paid every other week, you get a third paycheck every six months. If you get paid every week, you get one every three months. I believe that’s how it works.

  • Kate January 2, 2007, 4:58 pm

    First rule of immigration is: Don’t believe anything that comes via the misinformation line. The rep that explained a sponsor’s obligations under the affadavit of support is completely wrong.

    You should consider discussing the basics of immigration with a qualified immigration attorney. There are many free services available, including Catholic Community Services, which has a wonderful immigration service. You do not need to be Catholic to use the service. In the end, it will put your mind at ease if you are informed, and it may help you obtain a sponsor, once a prospective sponsor understands what he/she is undertaking.


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