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I have decided to leave my job at the Mall. 

Hmmmm…could it be because working until 1 in the morning is just not cutting it.  Vilay is not loving picking me up with the three kids in the backseat of the car.  He has to drag them all out by himself into the cold night.  Why?  We have a stick.  I can’t drive a stick. 

I do love doing the whole clothing retail thing in small doses of time.  I could not do it for more than a fun-I-really-don’t-care kind of job.  Sure…I work hard and show up on time.  I don’t watch the clock (too much).  It is just the whole high school kind of mentality that goes along with “Mall jobs”. 

Everyone picks at stupid stuff.  Who cares if the shirts are all sized if I miss a sale to a customer? 

Plus, I am old fashioned. 

You go to work and do a super job.  Go home.  Why does that seem so hard?  Because even when you do a super job and work your hardest it is not enough. 

Management in retail just don’t get it. 

As a manager you must look at your employee as a person.  See their strengths.  See their weaknesses.  Praise their strengths while accepting and building from the weaknesses.

Above all respect them and work with them as they are…human beings. 


I always say that I can only do my best, not more.  That’s what I do.


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  • M@ December 6, 2006, 1:22 am

    You know you really should learn to drive a stick. :)

  • kim December 6, 2006, 3:09 am

    driving stick is not that hard…it’s just scary…i could not have someone teach me….i needed someone to explain what to do…and then I just did it!! Really, you could too!
    just do it!! (swooooosh)

  • Alison December 6, 2006, 3:33 am

    I see I’m not the only one to think so: just learn to drive a stick. It’s not that hard.

  • Cathy Y. December 6, 2006, 4:04 am

    Sorry to sound like a broken record here, too, but learning to drive a stick might be something you could consider for your “to do” list one day. Of course, that’s a lot easier said than done, as the mom of three very young kids, as you are, I am sure. It’s hard to have times to do the things we “need” to do rather than what we would just “like” to do when we have little ones at home. I’m lucky that I learned to drive a stick when I was graduating from high school. My grandfather was giving me an old, used car of his, and it was a stick. We went down to an empty parking lot on a day the store was closed and drove around. It was a bit hair-raising for me at first, but I got the hang of it. Good thing the car had a tachometer in it, and I knew to shift at 2000 rpms, which helped that I could actually see that and not just listen/feel for it. Over the years I’ve had two more cars that were sticks. Not only do they get better gas mileage than automatics, but they can be cheaper in price, too. I got a used Saturn with very low miles on it for an excellent price, because it was a stick, and as the salesman said, “nobody wants a stick.” So the skill has served me well, even financially. About your job, sorry that things weren’t that great at the mall store, but I know what you mean. You are probably a lot more mature than the other people who work there, even the manager.

  • Cathy Y. December 6, 2006, 4:05 am

    P.S. Plus if you drive a stick shift, you can drive in Europe! (another bonus!)

  • Pumpkin December 6, 2006, 4:57 pm

    I can drive a stick pretty well except for hills. For some reason I choke up when I have to stop on a hill and go again. I freeze inside and can’t get the car to move. It keeps stalling out. I know it is a fear and I have to over come it. I will but right now I think it’s ok. Besides I can’t see Vilay sitting at home without a car. He would feel like he was caged.

    Learning to drive a stick is on the top of my to do list in life.

  • Cathy Y. December 6, 2006, 8:37 pm

    Pumpkin, it’s sort of an “art” to being able to start again at the top of the hill. I used to stall it, too. You have to have your left foot on the clutch, then when it’s time to go, move your right foot VERY quickly from the brake to the gas as you manipulate both the gas and the clutch at the same time. You need to let off of the clutch VERY slowly while pressing on the gas. You’re going down with the gas slowly and up with the clutch slowly. I’ve even gone up and down slowly, keeping myself stopped, by manipulating the gas and clutch together to keep from ever having to touch the break. Hoping you get a chance to practice with it.

  • kat December 6, 2006, 10:08 pm

    Have you considered a job at the airport? I know when I worked there, they were always looking for bilingual people and it paid considerably more than the regular jobs. As an added bonus, if you worked for an airline, your daughter could fly to see you for free.

  • Pumpkin December 7, 2006, 12:00 am

    I hadn’t thought about that. Thank you, Kat. I will look into it. We have the Dayton airport about a half hour away. :)

  • Wendz December 7, 2006, 12:07 am

    Good luck Pumpkin…so many changes and it’s so hard but you know life will eventually settle. It’s all teething problems now. I don’t know how you stood that job actually..you are a special person.

  • Pumpkin December 7, 2006, 3:13 am

    Thank you, Wendz.
    I agree that it is all teething problems. Vilay is having a hard time waiting for things to start looking up but I try to keep my eyes beyond the mess. Really I am happy now. I just wish it weren’t getting so cold outside. I could use some Florida sunshine. :)

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